All posts by Tom Golden

Tom Golden is the author or three books, Swallowed by a Snake: The Gift of the Masculine Side of Healing, The Way Men Heal, and Helping Mothers be Closer to Their Sons: UnderStanding the Unique World of Boys. Tom was the creator of the youtube channel Men Are Good and served as the vice chairman of the Maryland Commission for Men's Health. He has been a therapist in private practice for over 30 years.

Why do Men’s Advocates See Through the Lies?

I was thinking the other day that a large percentage of the men I know who are active in men’s rights issues see through the government’s lies.  I wondered why?  Then I realized that those of us who have been doing this work for some time have seen time and time again the lying of our government.  It started for me with the Domestic Violence lies and for many it was the family court lies.  The lies about men being oppressors, the lies about toxic masculinity and on and on.  We have a history of seeing the lies and making  up our own minds about what we think may be the truth. We have already gone through that essential period of disbelief.   So many people have never really been personally confronted with these sorts of lies and are therefore automatons of the media/big tech/bigacademe and of course big government.  

Would love to hear your take on this.

Feeling Good in a Red Pill World #1


                        Where’s Your Roller Coaster?

Only thinking about the present!

One of the most basic ideas of healing is to keep one’s mind in the present moment.  When we are able to do this we usually feel good.  When the mind gets pulled into the future we often become anxious. When the mind gets stuck in the past  we tend to get more depressed.  Dwelling on  the past and the future will tend to limit our joy.

What’s your favorite ride at the amusement park?  Think about it.  All the rides are geared to put you into the present moment.  Think of a roller coaster ride.  Are you worrying about the future or upset over the past?  No! You are locked into the present moment and people love it and pay for it! 


Now the important question is how to do this on your own and do it consistently.  Start thinking about what you do to put yourself into the present moment.  Talk about it with someone close.  Ask them where you seem to feel the most joyful.  This will give you some clues about your unique ways, and your roller coaster.  Have fun with this.


Changes are coming to
​I am inviting select writers on men’s issues to participate on  Warren Farrell, Janice Fiamengo, Mike Buchanan, Moiret Allegiere and others have agreed to take part.​ Stay tuned for this to get going. I am also starting a new weekly series Feeling Good in a Red Pill World that focuses on specific things you can do to feel good.  Taking the Red Pill can be a difficult process and this weekly series will offer some creative ideas.

And keep in mind… are good!  As are you.

A Gentleman’s Guide to Manners, SEx, and Ruling the World: How to survive as a man in the age of misandry and do it with Grace

Did F4J Take the Lincoln Memorial?