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Feel Good! First Time is Best

Can you remember your first day at work?  What you did, who you met, what you saw?  Okay how about day two or day three? Chances are you don’t remember quite as much about those days.  Why not?  One of the basic rules of the psyche is that when we do something for the first time our awareness gets stronger.  Basically, we pay more attention.  When we pay more attention we are usually more alive in the present moment.  Because we are more alive in the present moment we tend to remember more of what was happening.

I bet you can think back to many instances where you did something for the first time.  All sorts of memories are likely to pop up about the first time we did something.  I would also bet that some of those will make you smile when you remember.

So if we are more aware the first time we do something, and this puts us more in the present tense, how can we use this to our advantage?

TRY THIS

Do something for the first time and be aware of your consciousness as you are doing this.  It might be going to a new restaurant that offers a type of food you have never had.  It might be taking a ride in the car to an unfamiliar area and on roads you have never used before.  It might be  trying a sport you have never tried or experimenting with an unfamiliar musical instrument.  Whatever you do, see what impact the first time might have on your awareness and your feeling good!

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Feel Good! Being in the Moment is Child’s Play!

Have you ever watched a 1 or 2 year old carefully?  What do they do?  It’s pretty simple, they experience.  Unencumbered by the rigid adult belief system, the cascade of shoulds and shouldn’ts, or the numerous adult defenses they move from one thing to the next and simply experience whatever they are doing.  Sometimes they lick things, sometimes they touch and feel, other times they just ambulate from one spot to another but no matter what they are doing they are involved in the moment.

Most of us can’t imagine what it would be like to have such a focus on our present moment.  We are often too busy with our persistent thoughts going one way and then another or preoccupied with our fears or regrets.  What can we do?

TRY THIS 

Find a 1-2 year old and follow them around. It could be a relatives’s child or maybe your own.  Do whatever they do no matter what.  Do it for five minutes and see what happens.  I can just about guarantee that you will be laughing and of course as a later post will say, laughter is a great way to be in the moment.  Be sure that you are not the responsible party for the child’s safety. Yes, you both get a babysitter!

Have fun!

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