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Happy New Years!

A Happy New Year to all.  Ah yes, new years, that time of year that everyone starts thinking about resolutions.  You know, those resolutions that rarely pan out.  I’m going to lose 20 lbs.  I’m going to stop eating Fritos.” And on and on.  I don’t want to discourage anyone from working on making changes that are needed.  Go for it!  What I do want to suggest is that it might be helpful for you to put a slightly different spin on New Years Change.

Why not try something in addition to making resolutions?  How about working to be accepting of yourself as you are?  I know a man who is 5’11” who always wanted to be 6 feet tall.  It bugged him.  It niggled at him.  He had this small part of himself that he could hear saying, “you are not 6 feet, you are short.”  There was nothing this man could do to increase his height.  He could wear extended heels but that wouldn’t really help this inner chatter. Then one day he said to himself, “I am what I am. Hell, I am an inch taller than the average male height.  I am fine the way I am.”  No one really noticed his shift in thinking except the man who became a tidbit more satisfied with his life and less distracted by his inner warden.


Can you think of something about yourself that you were born with that has bugged you like our man and his height?  Can you let it go?  Can you just smile at it and say, “Yup, that is me and I am fine with that?”  Give it a shot and have a Happy New Year!

Newsletter – Where’s your Roller Coaster?


I have been writing a newsletter for some time and thought I would start sharing them on this page.  They come out once a week and if you want to subscribe just go here.  If you want to read others go here.  Hope you find them useful.  Tom



#2  Where’s Your Roller Coaster?

One of the most basic ideas of healing is to keep one’s mind in the present moment.  When we are able to do this we usually feel good.  When the mind gets pulled into the future we often become anxious. When the mind gets stuck in the past  we tend to get more depressed.  Dwelling on  the past and the future will tend to limit our joy.

What’s your favorite ride at the amusement park?  Think about it.  All the rides are geared to put you into the present moment.  Think of a roller coaster ride.  Are you worrying about the future or upset over the past?  No! You are locked into the present moment and people love it and pay for it!


Now the important question is how to do this on your own and do it consistently.  Start thinking about what you do to put yourself into the present moment.  Talk about it with someone close.  Ask them where you seem to feel the most joyful.  This will give you some clues about your unique ways, and your roller coaster.  Have fun with this.