Where’s Your Roller Coaster?
One of the most basic ideas of healing is to keep one’s mind in the present moment. When we are able to do this we usually feel good. When the mind gets pulled into the future we often become anxious. When the mind gets stuck in the past we tend to get more depressed. Dwelling on the past and the future will tend to limit our joy.
What’s your favorite ride at the amusement park? Think about it. All the rides are geared to put you into the present moment. Think of a roller coaster ride. Are you worrying about the future or upset over the past? No! You are locked into the present moment and people love it and pay for it!
Now the important question is how to do this on your own and do it consistently. Start thinking about what you do to put yourself into the present moment. Talk about it with someone close. Ask them where you seem to feel the most joyful. This will give you some clues about your unique ways, and your roller coaster. Have fun with this.
Tom Golden is the author or three books, Swallowed by a Snake: The Gift of the Masculine Side of Healing, The Way Men Heal, and Helping Mothers be Closer to Their Sons: UnderStanding the Unique World of Boys. Tom was the creator of the youtube channel Men Are Good and served as the vice chairman of the Maryland Commission for Men’s Health. He has been a therapist in private practice for over 30 years.