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The Shooting of Steve Scalise and the Brainwashing of America

The shooting today in Alexandria of the Republican legislator was the responsibility of more than just one deranged shooter. It has been an orchestra of voices who have set this up and are setting up other violence in the future. Here’s a short list of those who helped pull that trigger:

The media – Yes the media has for months before the election pushed the idea that Trump was both unfit to be president and dangerous. They have continued this line of brainwashing while offering no evidence other than innuendo. Now they have added on to this false narrative that Trump was obstructing justice when he fired Comey as a way to obscure his colluding with the Russians. Again, no evidence but plenty of fake news. They are whipping people into a frenzy over the idea that Trump is dangerous to our country and a poisonous traitor. This sort of lying will activate the mentally ill or mentally challenged and push them to action to save the day.  Imagine the mentally challenged hearing a repeated message that a president is dangerous.   Gullible and impressionable minds are prone to “help their country” by ridding us of the dangerous person. The media is setting things up.  What a scam.

Hollywood — Celebrities have become an arm of the fake news media with their hate and amplifications of the media’s fake news of Trump being dangerous and unfit to be president. There has never been anything like this.

Comedians – Even the comics or those posing as comics get into the act. Kathy Griffin held a replica of the blood drenched and severed head of the President of the United States and thought nothing of it. Imagine she had held the bloody head of Hillary Clinton or Barack Obama? She would not even consider such an act because there is a cultural push, a taboo against such hateful stupidity. But Trump? No problem. No such taboo exists, only an atmosphere that he is dangerous and needs to be stopped. In our present day atmosphere of any violence against Trump is okay, she figured it would go over just fine.

Education – What was once the land of insuring free speech has turned into the opposite. Now our colleges and universities are banning speakers due to content and allowing thugs to dictate who speaks and who does not.

The Police – We have all seen the violent protests that have both destroyed property and injured peaceful protestors. But what do we see? The police not stopping them. People with masks burning property in the street, smashing windows, beating people and the police sit on their hands. What message does this send? Clearly this sends a message to all that violence and destruction of property is just fine as long as it is pointed at conservatives or Trump people. Imagine for just a moment what would be the result if masked violent protestors were attacking women or blacks in a similar manner? There would be an immediate police response and people would be jailed. We hear of very few who are arrested and jailed. The message is, we aren’t going to stop you if you want to break the law and be violent as long as your violence is pointed towards Trump. Unreal.  This also exposes the double standard that has become painfully apparent as of late in certain people, the royalty, being free from the burden of the laws that the rest of us must obey.

Psychological community – Oh the psychiatrists have joined the fray by diagnosing Donald Trump without ever interviewing him. He is dangerous they proclaim! This of course is in direct violation of the code of ethics of the American Psychiatric Association but that doesn’t stop these psychological fake news alarmists. This is exactly the sort of thing that was done in the old Soviet Union. That is, the utilization of psychological diagnoses for political purposes. You may remember that those unfortunate enough to be diagnosed by the Soviet shrinks went to gulags for the rest of their days. Is this what we are coming to?

Political leaders – Barack Obama and Hillary Clinton have done nearly nothing to criticize or tell their supporters to not be violent and hateful. Their silence is as loud as an F-15. They have said almost nothing and the message is clear. If the violence is against Trump and the Republicans then it is just fine. I think that they even told Trump that he needed to condemn the violence. That would be like telling black protesters to call off the KKK.

This adds up to the brainwashing of America. When your media, your educational system, your psychological system and your entertainment industry are all pushing fake narratives and shutting down opposing voices that is a mass attempt at indoctrination.

This must end and end quickly or we will be on the verge of a civil war. The desperation of the left seems to indicate they have something huge to hide. Maybe we will find out soon?

Check out what Paul Joseph Watson says about all this:

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The Everyday Hatred of Men: Part one, Patriarchy

(this is the script for the first video in a youtube series that I just completed on the Everyday Hatred of Men.  The series examines Patriarchy, Toxic Masculinity, Hegemonic Masculinity and then concludes with some ideas about why the hatred is allowed to stand. I will be publishing these here in order.  If you want to skip ahead and see the entire series you can see them here. TG)

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Rarely in nature do things go just one way. We live in a world that is filled with complexity and subtlety. And yet, when it comes to men we see three popular theories that are horribly one sided and hateful. The feminist Patriarchy theory, the academic hegemonic masculinity theory and the media’s whipping boy toxic masculinity.

Were going to have a look at all three. Let’s start with patriarchy.

Feminists have developed a clever system that they can call on to assign blame for most any problem they might have or see. They call it patriarchy. Basically it holds men as evil and accountable for the ills of the earth and women as its victim.

Here’s one of the only definitions I could find:

Patriarchy is the term used to describe the society in which we live today, characterized by current and historic unequal power relations between women and men whereby women are systematically disadvantaged and oppressed.

Uh huh, right, I believe the idea of women being oppressed in the us was the biggest lie of the 20th century. But let’s move on.

Listen to what Andrea Dworkin a feminist icon had to say about it:

Under patriarchy, every woman’s son is her potential betrayer and also the inevitable rapist or exploiter of another woman.

Every son is the inevitable rapist. Every son means all men. Got it. Now let’s hear from Mary Daly, another well known radical feminist

Almost everything has been stolen from us by the patriarchy. Our creativity has been stolen, our creative energies, our religion. I want it back.

So patriarchy is a narcissists dream, something to point all the blame at others and at the same time holding you as an innocent victim. Pretty snazzy way to blame men while being blameless.

You would think that after many years of making such ground shaking claims that these folks would have research to back them up. Nope, not that I can find. What I saw repeatedly when asked to prove the existence of patriarchy was the pointing towards the fact that more men are the ones in the positions of power.

Okay, gotta agree that men are dominant in positions of power but just how did that happen? These folks would have you believe that eons of evolution of our sex roles have been created just to disadvantage and oppress women! This is an extraordinarily ego centric and self centered claim. It actually reminds me of a 5 year old girl who’s birthday party and pony ride was rained out and she blames it all on her brother. It’s all Jimmy’s fault! He ruined my birthday. It’s all about me! Jimmy hurt me jimmy had a pony ride! She just doesn’t have the psychological maturity to see the actual factors that are involved and needs someone to blame.

When one does look for research about how and why our sex roles have differentiated as they have you get a very different picture. Let’s look at just one tiny aspect, that of testosterone. Scientists are now claiming that the major role of testosterone is to increase one’s striving for status. That’s right, trying hard to win, wanting to be at the top, competing competing competing. Since men have 10 to 20 times more testosterone doesn’t it start to make sense why there are more male CEO’s? The men are pushed by their biology to succeed. To hear more about testosterone and other factors that push men to the top you can see my recent video on that topic.

So wait a minute. Patriarchy is likely at least partially due to biology. Uh Oh. Feminists don’t believe in biology! They think that all of our differences are due to socialization, and that means that even patriarchy is due to socialization! They are what is termed cultural determinists. That means that they see the world only through the lens of how our culture constructs it. Biology be damned! Genetics be damned! Brain and hormones be damned!

So its not hard to imagine feminists getting confused about what is caused by biology and what isn’t. I can guess they might get upset about women not being as tall as men. Patriarchy! Start support groups, get legislation to make women taller, shame tall men. Get the idea? This may be a silly example but it is not far from their myopic gestalt challenged cries of patriarchy

The most perplexing part of this is how intelligent people have failed to call the feminist’s cards. Very few are willing to in argue the ridiculousness of patriarchy theory. When something is this one sided and wrong the most likely problem is likely a bully. I think that is happening here. No one is willing to tell the empress she has no clothes. Academia is petrified to cross the women’s studies gulag. Academia is filled with cowards.

There are some who are willing to question this. Most are men and as usual the men have both clarity and a sense of humor. Let’s take a couple of examples: Here’s one from Milo:

You see, feminists don’t really like to define the Patriarchy. They prefer to keep it nebulous and amorphous so they can conveniently blame it for everything that goes wrong in their lives. Not being paid enough? Patriarchy! Not getting a promotion? Patriarchy! Too many catcalls? Patriarchy! Too few catcalls? Patriarchy!

And then an urban dictionary poster named shikaku says patriarchy is:

The bogeyman that feminists blame for women’s problems or under-achievements because their big-girl pants apparently don’t fit. shikaku

And here’s one from Fidelbogen. He says patriarchy is:

A rhetorical device which props up feminist ideology by making it easy to impose a state of collective guilt upon half the human race, namely the male half.

Bravo gentlemen, thanks for stepping forward with the courage to challenge patriarchy.

So the term patriarchy has become a weapon used against men.

At the same time it is a shield to protect women from accountability. I can hear the feminists saying “but but but patriarchy hurts men too.” Yeah, right, that is like saying men are assholes and that hurts men too. Give it a rest. Hate is hate. Blaming a birth group for the worlds problems is hateful. We need to call it out wherever we see it.

Part two will look into Toxic Masculinity

 

 

tp see parts 1-4 you can access the menaregood youtube playlist here.

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Congratulations President Elect Donald Trump!

Asteelworkers-1029665_1280 hearty congratulations to you, President Elect Donald Trump on your recent victory.  I cannot tell you how deeply your idea of making America Great Again resonates in me.  But if we are to make America Great Again we must do one important thing:  We must cease our male bashing, our blaming and shaming of men and masculinity and get back to our previous societal default that Men Are Good!

stevedore-1636392_1280Men have faced continuous bashing in the media, in their relationships, in academia, in our legislatures, our courts,  and our government funded school systems  Men have quietly weathered this assault fairly well showing their resilience and drive regardless of the insults and false accusations thrown their way.  I know you have experienced some of that in your campaign and likely know very well the trauma a false accusation can pack.

But now it is time to bring an end to this devaluing of men and ask our men to join the effort to make this country great again.  An important part of this isbusinessman-805764_1280 going to be to let men know how much they are valued, respected, and appreciated.  Respect and admiration is the fuel for the masculine and our men have been running low on that resource for over 50 years.  It is time for us to give our men the recognition they deserve.    The loving fathers, the hard working men who support their families, the creative men who entertain, the brilliant men who theorize, the brave men who protect our borders, the everyday men who day in and day out work for the betterment of our country and do so even within this climate of disdain for men and masculinity.

It is these men who need to be honored and given respect and admiration.  It is these men who will be doing the tough work of making the country great again.

construction-646914_1280As you can imagine, judging by the name of this site, I have many ideas about how to bring the message forward that men are good.  Perhaps one of the best ideas would be to have you create a White House Council for Boys and Men.  President Obama, immediately following his inauguration created a White House Council for Women and Girls.  This has done great things for women and girls.  However when a group of us got together and created a proposal to create a White House Council for men and boys we were ignored. Totally.  Obama went so far as to strike the topic of a White House Council for Boys and Men from the agenda of a meeting he had with one of our group.  He simply didn’t want to talk about it much less do anything.  I’m sure you can imagine our frustration and our hopes that you might have a different response.

workers-659883_1280My sense is that our country is more than ready to see the male bashing be a thing of the past and to embark on a new path of honoring and admiring both our men and our women, our boys and our girls.  I am guessing you will feel this way also.

Thank you!

Tom Golden
Men Are Good!

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Review: The Red Pill Movie — compassion and choice for men and boys

{Disclaimor: I played a small part in the Red Pill Movie so I am sure that impacts my review. I was able to see a screening in Fairfax VA on November 1, 2016.}

 

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The Red Pill is an amazing documentary that accomplishes an incredible task. It portrays men as human beings who deserve compassion and choice.

It first helps the viewers to see that those bringing the message of men needing compassion and choice are not women haters, not Neanderthals and not unloving oafs but are people who are concerned about the humanity of both men and women and have already taken the red pill. These folks know that men, like women, are deserving humans. People like Elam, Farrell, Pizzey, Crouch, Esmay, Hayward and Angelucci all are shown not as oafs but as caring people concerned about the humanity of men and boys.

With that task started the harder work begins. The work of showing that men and boys face hardship and discrimination and fail to engender compassion from the vast majority of our culture.

The film accomplishes this by describing the inhumanity that men and boys have experienced and the concerted societal effort to ignore their suffering. It succeeds in doing this through graphics, through talk, through human stories and through statistics. It powerfully builds the case that men and boys are silently suffering in a world that sees the needs and pains of women and girls as a call to action and the pain and needs of men and boys as something to ignore. The message and theme of men’s disposability is gradually brought to life along with men’s issue after men’s issue that is driven home with undeniable statistics and powerful personal stories.

red.pill_All of this likely leads to an audience that is unsettled at best. Their blue pill comfort is being shaken and challenged. Two opposing elements come crashing together. On one hand, the viewer’s worldview has likely been that men have it all, have all the power and privilege and don’t need/deserve special help or even compassion. But on the other hand they are now in the midst of seeing the Red Pill message which is elegantly and honestly challenging that worldview by exposing the hardships of men and boys and how that is very often ignored. The unavoidable dilemma is that the viewer realizes they too have been a part of this global ignoring of male pain. These two opposing forces can’t coexist. Something has to give. This is where Jaye truly shines. She seems to have predicted the audiences’ angst response and gives them a balm: she tells them about her own ambivalence, her own disbelief and struggles, and her own discomfort with this new vision of men. She intersperses what she calls video diaries throughout the film and they show her process over the 2-3 years of filming of slowly struggling with the red pill and how hard a thing this is to swallow. I am certain that most of her audience is having the exact same ambivalence, disbelief, and discomfort that Jaye so aptly portrays in the video diaries. This gives them a model, another human being who has a similar struggle. My guess is that having Jaye as a model in these video diaries makes their task of incorporating such a large dose of new information that contradicts their beliefs a bit easier. When they see a very attractive young blond feminist who is openly questioning her own previous beliefs it normalizes their own experience of the same. The audience is at a disadvantage since they do not have 2-3 years to process, they only have the less than 2 hours of the film. Dissonance. My guess is that the end product of the video diary approach is that it helps the audience swallow and process a bit of their own bias. It likely softens things a bit and it does so in a way that facilitates their feeling stunned and minimizes their rage and anger. Being stunned breeds discussion and questions of oneself and others, being furious tends to breed separation and denial.

There will be plenty of folks who can’t psychologically tolerate the message of the Red Pill even with the helpful video diaries. These folks will likely be furious after seeing the film. That is both fine, expected, and welcomed. Better furious than ignorant. Cassie Jaye has given them a good shot to come out of it with questions and feeling at least a little more intact. I’m sure their mileage will vary based on their own level of personal development.

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Jaye also interviews feminists. Quite a few of them. Their words likely grate on the viewer’s psyche due to the viewer’s brand new realization of some men’s issues. The feminists tend to disregard men and boys and overtly contradict the very thing the film has been teaching. When you have seen clearly how men and boys are getting very little compassion it’s much easier to see the stark contrast of the feminist message of blaming men. It makes it very easy to see how their feminist world view is myopic and severely limited. Perhaps an even larger impact on the viewer came from the scenes of protestors trying to keep men’s issues from even being discussed. And then there was Big Red. The people I spoke with after seeing the movie unanimously referred to Big Red as extraordinarily enlightening to the hate that exists. The clips of the protestors and of Big Red were very effective in helping the viewer to understand the depth of their hatred and misandry.

The protestors chanted such hatred as “Fuck Warren Farrell.” They accused him of being a rape apologist, a misogynist, and pulled fire alarms to sabotage his talk. What was the issue they were so enraged over? Farrell was to talk on boys and suicide. Boys and suicide.   Knowing this it becomes clear that their upset was likely not about Farrell but more related to simply wanting to stop anyone from discussing men’s issues such as boys and suicide. That is a forbidden topic to them. Why? Because it challenges their worldview and they will have none of it and will do what they can to stop it. They are like flatworlders who attacked those who said the world was round. This is obvious in the film but what I want to point out now is that we are seeing the exact same dynamic from people protesting this film. Watch the movie and see that it is only about men’s and boy’s issues. That’s it. But the protests of the film, like the Farrell protestors,  are not about the content, they are personal attacks on the cast and on the director. Watch the reviews, or the attempted bannings of this movie and you will see this dynamic repeated over and over again. The worldview is challenged and the response is to make personal attacks, just like “Fuck Warren Farrell” or now “Fuck the hateful misogynist Red Pill”.   It is obvious to even a casual observer that what is driving this frantic screaming has nothing to do with the cast or the director or even the content of the film and has everything to do with the protestors’ lack of compassion for men and boys and their fear of anything that might negate their feminist ideology. Here’s a tip: when you run into someone attacking this movie just ask them if they are having a hard time having a little compassion for boys and men. That cuts through to the reality of their upset.

The film flowed easily for me. In its nearly two hours time I never looked at my watch and was engaged in the flow on screen. So many issues were presented clearly and accurately. I was especially moved by the section on circumcision. I wont’ spoil it for you but will just say that is was a powerful use of cinema to get a message across and will likely open many eyes about the barbarism of circumcision and the default disregard for the pain and trauma of little boys.

I loved this film but if I had one nit to pick it would have to be the omission of the role of gynocentrism. The film does a great job of showing that men and boys have faced difficulties and their problems have been ignored but it fails to help the viewer understand why this might be. Yes, feminism is a problem but the question is what is fueling feminism? Why has it been so successful? Why has it been so easy to over run the needs of men and boys while tending to the needs of women and girls? The answer lies in gynocentrism which has been around for eons as compared to feminism which is a newcomer and basically a parasite of gynocentrism. In a nutshell, gynocentrism is about providing and protecting women and children at the expense of men. You know, the old “women and children first” meme. This is not a totally bad thing since it has been what has built our culture and many others for thousands of years. It does however impact our interest in women’s issues and our turning away from men’s issues. If you are curious about your own degree of gynocentrism you can try an exercise here. If you want to learn more about this I wrote an article Gynocentrism 2.0 that goes into much more detail. (or a youtube video here) Maybe the next documentary will explain this in detail.

Jaye has had the guts/balls to make this film and tell her story, the men’s story, the feminist’s story and let it all stand on its own. When she interviews both MHRA’s and feminists she doesn’t take sides, she lets people talk. She doesn’t interrupt or challenge or try to change minds. She just listens. Through most of the film she just puts the story into the film. This is a gift to the viewer. I can’t tell you how grateful I am to her for this. When you see this movie you will likely join me in that feeling and importantly, will be left to decide on your own.

Jaye has produced a ground breaking documentary that exposes the default lack of compassion for the needs and problems of men and boys. In some ways the film is a litmus test. It will accurately tell you how much compassion you have for boys and men. Those who flail their arms in the air and scream patriarchy, patriarchy, patriarchy are letting you know that they failed the litmus test. They are lacking in compassion for boys and men.

Thank you Cassie Jaye for having the courage to make this critically important film. Thanks too for the unmistakable message that underlies the Red Pill:  Men Are Good!

 

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